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Many women experience a decrease in libido at this time of life and there are several reasons for that. Hormones play a role, with an expected decrease in testosterone and estrogen over time throughout midlife and beyond. Hormonal changes lead to physical changes, as well as changes to chemicals in the brain linked to mood and pleasure. Life gets busy in midlife because we are also mid-career, and managing schedules and relationships around us. And then there's what we don't often talk about or admit… Our bodies are changing! Some of it is hormonal, but some of it is normal age related change that we cannot stop. Just like we don't judge our partners for this, they typically do not judge us either. We are our own harshest judges here and there is real work to be done to remember who we are and accept certain physical changes. Sure, there are ointments and surgeries that can fix a lot of things, but these cost money and aren't without risk. 1. Focus on POSITIVES- firm muscles since you've started lifting weights, hair growth since starting HRT or adding collagen, a great recent haircut, improvements in vaginal dryness from starting vaginal estrogen, using body moisturizer that makes skin feels soft and smell good, red lipstick or a great new sweater. 2. Focus on how you FEEL- nonsexual touch is a great start, and then focusing on how your body feels. And while even this can be different from what it was before, seek out what feels good. 3. CHANGE is coming- Just like Viagra changed ED for men, there are options for women including:
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